I need some advice.

[Josh]

Okay guys, I don't usally ask these kind of questions. But I am in need of some questions answered.

I have a friend who is a female, she is my best friend. But I am so in love with her and she knows it. I buy her gifts, we have lunch together once a week. But she has a boyfriend. Whom used to my friend but he got jealous when me and his girlfriend got real close.

I am for sure that my friend likes me, because we talk for hours upon hours on the phone after she leaves her boyfriends house. I am the first person she talks to in the morning and the last person she talks to at night. We talk until she falls asleep. I know that she likes me for the sheer fact that she wouldn't want to talk to me that much. for the past 4 months my cell phone usage has been from 1500- 2200 celluar minutes. All free nights and weekends of course ;)

But my question is, do you think if I kept at the rate I am going, Do you think I could get her to possibly leave her boyfriend who doesn't treat her how she deserves to be treated. Or should I just step back and see what she does if I withdrawl myself from her. I don't want to make her choose.

Really I guess the real question is What would you do?

***edit
She also comes to my dealership 2-3 times a week just to hang out with me. When me and her are together we always have fun no matter what is happening in our lives. We just click like lovers should, but for some reason she wants to stay with what she has had for so long. She knows I am so in love with her, and I am starting to sense the same from her because she is starting to act differently by flirting more to my advances to her. but I don't know. I wish I could really go into the future and see into my path to see if I am wasting my time or not, because it is tearing me up on the inside. I just don't want to feel like I am doing all of this for nothing. Because that would hurt so much.

Well any suggestions would be appreaciated. If you have something harsh to say, consider it to be removed and you will be dealt with...

Joshua

[Josh]

Oh yeah yesterday (Thursday) me and her had lunch together and we were looking through the paper and we came across an ad for a gameboy advance on sale. She was like I would like one of those for my birthday. Her birthday is in the last week of June. Guess what I bought her after I got off of work on Thursday! :) I called her and told me that I needed to see her on Friday. So she calls me at midnight and says it is friday come and meet me somewhere and show me what you need to show me. I go and give her, her gift. She just looked at me and said no one has ever gotten me what I have asked for on my birthday. I was like, when I say something I do it. Unlike your boyfriend. She just looked at me and smiled and said thanks.

Did that help me out??

[gran_dam98]

I don't think you should want to "get her" from her boyfriend. I'm in the same situation right now. However I fell in love with her when I was dating my, now current, ex. It happened last year, while we both had significant others. Or so we thought they were. I would give anything to be with her, but I screwed up. I had the chance w/ her, and choose to stick it out w/ my failing relationship. WRONG! Now I'm broken up w/ her, and have no one. I say go for it.. you don't want to regret it later, like I do now. But don't push it! Let her come to you! Sorry if I'm rambling.. haven't even told this much info to some of my friends.. I suppose it doesn't matter now that I'm broken up w/ her.. so point is like I said go for it! Just don't force it :)

[TheRaceShop.Com]

Josh,

you have a PM where I reside. Don't be pissed off or upset when you read it. Just take it in and think it over.

[RussGAGT]

i say tell her how you feel and what you think of this boyfriend, i had kind of a similar situation (luckily they broke up before i had any say about it) If you know that she has interest in you, I say go for it, just be prepared for the worst...it wont necessarily go the way you want it to. And ALWAYS KNOW if the juice is worth the squeeze...but I am sure you already know that it is, Josh

[Danmuzicman]

josh have you ever seen chris rock's bigger and blacker comedy show.. i am not trying to be harsh, but its honesty cuase i've been this guy and i dont want you to go threw this.. you are her, "dick in a glass case", incase of fire break glass!!! now this is what it apears to be but i do not know her and exactly your circumstance. but typicaly thats what you are, the one platonic friend that she could fuck.. and she will keep around just in case... she may not be doing this intentional but its sorta like a net incase she falls. she may not have intentions of this but be carefull. she could also be on the way out of this relationship or be unhappy and is useing you as a crutch to get out so she wont feel alone or bad.

[Josh]

Well I have been thinking about this for a while, I will start distancing my self from her, and see what her reaction is. I in no way want our relationship to end. Because I really do care for her, and she cares for me or atleast I think she does. So lets see how this works out.... :(

[TheRaceShop.Com]

Josh,

If you distance yourself, start small. Don't jump in and just stop talking to her or anything all together. Small steps at first bud. As I said before. You have my digits, whenever you want to call, just drop me a ring.

[KaRtOoN187]

Here's the thing with this type of situation, and I have been in it before. Don't do it. Because if she will leave her boyfriend for you, she is much more likely to leave you for someone else in the future. Been there, done that, same situation...didn't work out. Either stay in the friends bracket, or just slowly step away from the entire relationship all together...it will save A LOT of heartache in the future...
peace

[Josh]

I still don't know what I really want to do..

[jeremy96gase]

Are you sure you don't live in the seattle area and drive an 05 Avalanche?

Cause, yea, I'm the "boyfriend", in this same situation. (and the guys name is Josh)

It hurts everytime he buys something for her.

Only one differance, I treat my lady right.
Rest asured, I'm not going anywhere.

[jeremy96gase]

I really wish I didn't read this thread.

[Josh]

No Jeremy I am still in Ohio and have a yellow Mazda.

[Josh]

I am sorry about your current situation though Jeremy. I have no idea on what you should do. Sorry.

[jeremy96gase]

k, just making sure.
Yea, I'm not really sure what to do either.