I need some advice.

[grandamgtdriver]

i think this girl is just a tease really. she's not getting the attention she wants from her current boyfriend, so that's why she is so receptive to the attention you give her. she is obviously comfortable in her relationship and thinks it will work out in the long run or she would have left this chump long ago. i say stop wasting your time, gradually distance yourself from her, and start dating other girls. you don't want to miss out on other opportunities by spending all your time, money, and energy on this girl only to find out it was for nothing. i wonder how she will react when you start introducing other girls to her ;)

[JFlmngXpr3nc]

Distance yourself man. The worst thing you can do is buy expensive shit for her. I had a fling with a chick that had a boyfriend; did a lot of same things you did. In the end, she broke up with him and then didn't want anything to do with me. You'll end up getting hurt if you keep going on this track. Stay friends with her, go out to lunch (don't always pay for her), stop buying gameboys, but still treat her nicely. If she thinks you are better than her boyfriend, she'll come to you.

[GrandIllusion]

dont hop out man stay with it but if u do get her you will have achieved what you want and will actually not do what you have been. stay friends and if anything happens then it happens if u need to talk call me man pm me if u want my # i have urs still from louisville ok. i know where ur at on this.

[Josh]

I have chosen not to give up. We are actually going to the casino's in the near future after her 21st birthday. Just me and her :D

[Josh]

She turns 21 next Sunday. So 2 weeks after we are going to the casino's. We both are anxious about going. But no anxious about losing our money. HAHA. I have decided to step back and just be her friend and not try to make anything happen at this point. I want her to make the decision over time, and on her own will. She knows I will always be there no matter what. And as long as she knows that and we are friends I don't mind to wait. But I am also going to look on for new girls to date to see what her reaction to that is. haha I know it makes her jealous but I need to make my point to her that I am not going to just be the pawn that she has wrapped around her finger.

So we will see how it goes from there.

Joshua

[Danmuzicman]

good luck and excelent descion for you, but for me horrible spelling

[Josh]

Well it is part of life. You live and learn.

[JFlmngXpr3nc]

Very good call on your part. Good luck at the casino!!

[Josh]

Thanks!

[RussGAGT]

if you win some cash...it would be cool if you send me some...lol

[jamz]

I just read this thread and happy I did. Strange, I am currently in a strange situation with a relationship. First, let me say, good move Josh . I'll explain my situation and you can probably relate to it as many others. And you got my number, call me anytime and we can share our stories!

Ok .. Here it goes ...

I've been single about a year. I loved being single and was able to focus on my business and much more. But, I woke up one day and decided I wanted to get into a relationship. I missed a lot of the great things you have in a relationship. So, I started dating girls and just being more aware of girls I know etc. I guess you could say putting myself back on the market!

Long story short I start talking to one girl in particular. We go out, I hangout at her place, we watch movies, etc. I don't like drama, bullshit, and I am pretty straight up. So, after awhile I start telling her I'm looking for a relationship in the end etc. Her response was great. I didn't want to hear, great, me too. Instead, I expected to hear the yea, me too, you know about my past relationships and I want to take things slow. Which I got.

We keep talking, e-mail daily and phone, and I am just myself.

I get really busy at work (new job) and she goes out of town. Turns out, she met an old friend and they started hanging out.

No big deal, I don't get upset. We really don't talk for about 2 weeks .. next thing I know, we start talking again. She seems to have missed me, and we are talking again and going to go out soon.

But, I call her last week, we talk like an hour and we end it with her saying I hope to hear from you soon. I call her the next day to see if she wanted to hangout. Some things came up and she couldn't. So, she says she will call back. Never called back and I didn't call back. I don't want to come off as though I am chasing her. However, I feel she ends most of our conversations with the, “I hope to talk to you soon” setting me up to call and then I get the I will call you back, putting me on her schedule, just to wait. As though if my plans don’t work out, I will have you on hold type of deal. Which, I don’t do.

She should be back on Monday. So, I plan to do the call and see how her weekend was. Just play it cool, ya know.

I guess what I'm getting at is this. I have a few thoughts ..

1. I feel like she is playing 2 guys and wants each to chase after her. I won't do that. I have no need to chase after any girl. Either you like me or you don't. I'll make the calls, etc .. but, not going to fall like some desperate guy and just call daily.

2. She doesn't know what she wants. She has 2 totally different guys. Me, more mature/professional and we can do all kinds of things. And the other, younger, college mode kind of guy.

3. As someone said, I am just the glass to break in case of emergency. Keep me close, not too close, but when needed, break the glass. I really like that comment!

So what do I do? Currently, I am going about my life. I go out, party, and talk to other girls. I keep in touch with her, shoot e-mails sometimes, and call and she calls. I am being myself, taking the high ground, and not going to chase after anybody.

I hope it works out. I really hate the beginning stages of relationships. They can tear you down!

So, I will keep this updated and you do the same Josh. I guess we’ll see if my method works or just crashes and burns. Either way, it sucks trying to figure women out.

Sorry about such a long post!

[Josh]

Its cool Jason, I will have to give you my 2 way number for my new nextel. But she is in Michigan with her parents and that other guy this weekend for the Nascar race. I really do miss her, and there are some other things I will post about later when I get back home tonight. It is getting interesting.

-Josh

[Josh]

okay here it is.

Last saturday night, I went to a car show with some other people from Kentucky who I know, they happened to be all girls. haha My friend calls me and she asks whta I am doing. I tell her I am sitting at steak and shake with some girls from Kentucky. She got all quite on me. haha

Fast forward to Weds of last week, I go pick my mom up from Tennessee because she went down to hang out with my aunt for a week or so. ON the way home she was like your friend got jealous about Saturday night. I was like who told you this. She wouldn't tell me. I know it wasn't me because I know I haven't talked to her about it.
So Friday me and my friend have lunch. She was telling me about getting ready for the trip to Michigan, and then she asked me what I was doing this weekend. I was like I am going down to Amy's to help work on some cars. She stopped eating and just sat there and said nothing. She got so jealous. haha

but now I need to know if that is a good or bad sign. I am thinking it is a good sign because, I am showing her that I can move on if needed, and for her to go ahead and make her mind up.

-Joshua

[jamz]

I think it's a good move Josh. Maybe she will realize what she is missing. That is my game plan.

[TheRaceShop.Com]

I think Josh, you are making the right move (look at this, I am on the weekend of my wedding - already married - and I am reading this...... I love you gize). Distancing yourself is a good move on your part, and make it known that you are going on with your own life, but also make sure it is known that if she wants to go out, you are there for her as well.

I personally just want to see YOU happy Josh and I hate it when a woman plays one man against another. That is such BS