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12-18-2003, 07:40 AM
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you still should have asked her outright.. (easiest way).. however i ask everyone this .. "what's better? doing something a little underhanded and finding out your girl is a douche.. or respecting her and not knowing ? "
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12-18-2003, 09:10 AM
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Well I sat down and put it all together last night as I was in tears. I think I talked to Josh Combs until about 2am or so. It was a very short convo, but it killed me. I have never felt this hurt over something like this. I feel betrayed and my trust has been destroyed. 99% of the time I don't give people second chances. I was so mad that I had to write it out on paper. I was shaking. So here is my next question. I really want to hear her explination of why. I'm not going to give her the note that I wrote, first and foremost because it is so tear smudged, and secondly because breaking up over a letter is not very mature, and I am above that. I know that most people are probably like just dump the b*tch but I do have a history with this woman. The more that I think about it, the more I think that I got played about a whole bunch of things. The engagement ring size, moving down here, the entire 9 yards. I don't know anymore. I just feel so vulnerable and betrayed..... You know its funny, I have only 2 friends down here and NONE of my friends are remotely close. Two of her friends who are my friends as well live down here close. Why me? Do I have sucker wrote across my forhead? (Don't answer that) It's looking and feeling like I am going to be spending the holiday season alone this year. I don't know yet, but I have definatly put up a huge wall. I just don't want to say anything infront of Morganne, because I just don't do that.
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12-18-2003, 06:34 PM
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Josh we are here for you, just let us know if we can do anything...
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12-18-2003, 07:13 PM
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here's a sentence from a 17-page story i wrote about my relationships.. and in particular my last love that i literally felt almost killed me.. (and I'm 40).. " Maybe that’s what Emily finally saw. She became objective after being subjective for so long. Maybe I pissed her off with my erratic behaviour during the agonizing and withdrawn period of feeling stuck. Maybe now that her other friend (and my perceived nemesis) dumped his girlfriend, he was better for her. Maybe she realized she made a mistake or didn’t have the capacity to love another yet. See all the “maybes”? That’s just it. I have no idea why she left the relationship and treated me so horribly. I was utterly and absolutely devastated. And lord knows I spent many agonizing nights wondering why. She was a different person to me, but insisted she was the same person. She would only say that she didn’t feel like I did. Offering nothing further, I eventually had to conclude that she didn’t love me any more (if she ever had)." Sorry for the long quote.. but i eventually stopped wanting to know why.. and had to focus on what was good for me. Also, the 'why' may not satisfy you anyway. As was said.. we are here.. and it took me almost 5 months to stop trying to understand an answer..
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12-18-2003, 07:25 PM
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How old is yer girl Josh? It really sounds like something a young girl would do. Most women would just come out and say "Ya know I would really like to get this moonstone thingamajig more than lingerie" Where as a young girl would just go about it in a sneaky way, seeing how she may be afraid to ask since its expensive. I love amy very much.. hell she just spent $500 of MY money.. on stuff she doesnt even know.. IN 4 DAYS!! I needed to direct depost some shit and her acoount# was handy.. well that was a mistake! I doesnt bother me cuase I know she'll give it back and she feels bad.. I guess she was right when she told me she was bad with money. :rolleyes: BTW I have the passwrod to her email and I check it all the damn time!!!!!!!!! But ya know what.. after a snooping for a few months.. I have found no reason to not trust her.
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12-18-2003, 07:53 PM
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this day and age you have to snoop. Its the consensus of the vast majority that you trust no-one until they prove that they can be trusted... and that is the wise way to look at it. It prevents you from getting hurt more than you need to. You want to give the person a chance to prove themselves, of course... but all the same, giving your complete trust to a person is kinda irrational if you ask me.
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12-18-2003, 07:56 PM
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age may be related to maturity.. but it is not related to compassion... alot of women lack compassion nowadaze in my view..
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12-18-2003, 08:00 PM
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mine is 30. Go figure, and I'm 25. She has been married once before and is pulling all of the things on me that her ex pulled on her. This entire situation just seems to have selfish written all over it. Tonight she has been extremely lovie-dovie. I think that she knows that I know. I am going to call her on it tonight. Scott, I'm at the house in WV, I'll let you know tomarrow if I am going to be at my house in Ohio if you want to call then, i'll let you know. Feeling like this sucks the big fat ass.
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12-18-2003, 08:24 PM
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The problemns with shit like that, they are seeing there freinds husbands and whatnots making big bucks becuase they are out in the feild have been outa college fer ten years, and make lotsa money. Just as long as this doesnt put a damper on TRS :D :D Hell lets just move in together and start it that way :D :rolleyes:
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12-18-2003, 08:50 PM
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actually that would be cool since you all are in cahoots in this already. anyways, its like i said earlier josh, its good to speak your mind... don't just keep it to yourself and just wait to see what happens... you have to bring this up to her. the situation needs resolve, be it for better or for worse...
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12-18-2003, 10:54 PM
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Here I go with my input:
From my experiences with my girl... you gotta be open and honest. If there is anything on your mind... speak it. Don't let things bottle up and "assume" the other knows that you are hurt... cuz you will just keep on hurting. It does sound wrong what she did (in your first post)... BUT... she may think that its no big deal. She may think that its not that big of a deal to you. Thats what happens when one assumes something of the other in a relationship. I have done it, my girl has done it, it just causes problems and or misunderstandings. What I am getting at is, speak your mind... all of it. Tell her what you have been feeling and how long you have been feeling it, and why. Otherwise she may never know... I hope I was able to contribute something.
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12-18-2003, 11:11 PM
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and they can talk volumes on how different you are... then they treat you like yesterday's trash.. :rolleyes: so either they learn extremely well.. or they are just blind to their own behaviour.. best of luck m'man.. hope she wakes up and understands where you are coming from.
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